We all proudly say that we are living in 21st centurey . We have made immense progress in the field of
education, technology and medical not only this we have made lots of new discoveries and inventions.But in this limelight we all become insensitive towards relationship .The biggest example of this is ”whatsapp” where we know that last seen at position of a person sitting miles away from us but at the same time we dont remembered when we last saw our grand parents sitting at a corner of the house.Earning money has become one’s first and foremost duty because mother and father has to secure their children’s future and in this tension they forget senstiveness towards relationship
Of course you love your parents — that’s a given. But at times, maintaining the bond between parent and adult child can be as challenging as that between parent and teenager.
These days, both of you are confronting new challenges — retirement or career changes, health issues, conc
erns about the future. It’s to be expected these issues will affect your relationship, but as you change, so, too, must your relationship with your parents change.
Part of that evolution requires forging a new relationship, one between mature adults rather than “parent” and “child.” You already have the basic underpinnings — love and shared memor
ies. Add mutual respect and common interests and you may find a more fulfilling relationship with your mother and your father than any you’ve had since childhood.
some things never change — Mom might still offer her unsolicited opinions on your weight and wardrobe, and Dad might still only start a conversation if it has to do with your car. The key is to love the best parts of ?them and learn to accept the rest. Here are 14 Stealth Healthy ways to forge an adult relationship with your parents and enhance what might not always have been the strongest of bonds.
If your parents still treat you like you’re 6 or 16, it may feel funny to give up your role as the child. A good start is to model your conversations with Mom and Dad on those you have with friends, says Dr. Tessina. “Don’t limit your conversations strictly to family memories, or gossip about family members, or your personal life,” she advises. There’s a whole wide world out there — why not explore it with Mom and Dad as you would with a friend? Current events, sports, work, local neighborhood issues, or national politics (if you happen to share the same views) are all fair game.
When a child is having a hard time dealing with a stressful situation in public, people may look your way. At these times it helps to remember that sometimes these people understand children with disabilities and want to find a way to help you, or offer a supportive comment. Assume the best, unless you have a definite reason to assume otherwise.
But the unfortunate reality is that some people stare and make rude comments. This only makes it harder for parents trying to comfort an upset child. Sometimes we are in a calm state of mind and can help educate the person who has made the inappropriate remark. But at other times it can make us so angry that we want to respond with our own inappropriate comment. Both kinds of reactions are normal and to be expected.
When our kids get older and may be able to understand the comments or notice the stares, we start to worry about how it affects them and their self-esteem. But there are ways we can calm ourselves and help our children in the process.
